Archive for Presence
I’m pretty sure the tagline grabbed your attention right?
I want to talk about a risky subject that most people won’t talk about. That is the art of name dropping. A lot of people have taken this the wrong way and get mad when people do it incorrectly. But I will tell you that there are people who name drop all the time. I want to teach you a couple steps to properly dropping names. Right before we get into the right way of doing it, I think we need to talk about the wrong ways first to get those comparisons in the fore front of our minds.
Don’t do this!
Don’t be that guy who says they know everybody. I know all too well this type of mentality. I use to be this guy and wanted people to view me as important. A lot of times we do this out of ego, thinking some how people are going to think I’m cool and worthy to be in their presence because I know so-and-so.
Again I want to stay on subject here, but I just want tell you this, if you struggle with this type of thing it’s okay to be you. I learned that you got to quit caring about what people think about you, the more you don’t care what people think; the more happier you will be with yourself.
Remember you are Awesome the way you are now!
Don’t name drop if you don’t know them personally.
I see a lot of people do this all the time, and think they are going to impress somebody with this tactic. This doesn’t impress people, it just makes you look untrustworthy and nobody likes doing business with people they don’t trust or like.
These are two things you can do to name drop properly.
- It’s not bad during your conversation to drop a name that might build a bond between you and the other person you are talking too.
For Example: conversation might go something like this. Somebody is asking you were you are from, and you might say I’m from Phoenix; how about you? They say I’m from Chicago, oh cool I actually have buddy who lives in Chicago. Yeah my buddy so-and-so I believe is connected to you. Do you know him?
See again I’m not trying to be ego driven in this conversation, I’m just trying to create a bond in this conversation through being relate-able and saying we might know some of the same people.
2. It’s okay to talk about people you work with or know to build credibility during your conversation.
For Example: you are talking to somebody and they asking you about what you do, and you say I do this and that. Then they would say something like oh that is cool. Yeah I have worked with so-and-so who I believe you know, we are really good friends. I was just at his house last month.
We are doing this to build credibility with that person, and maybe potentially do business down the road. I hope you guys like this article.
If you guys can do me a favor and share it if it has helped you understand more about how to drop names. I appreciate you guys and I hope this helps you grow your business or personal relationships.
“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”
There is part in the Coach Carter movie were at the end of this quote, He tells Coach Carter you saved my life. I feel like I’m living more and more each day to hear those words from the people I help in life. Nothing better then a change life, sometimes we think it’s all about us. Funny how wrong that is, we get so much more from serving others.